More and more I see this mentality that all men are the same. They only want one thing, they're all abusers and users, so on and so forth. Women in today's society have cast themselves as victims before they've ever even been so. They have cast themselves in a manner where things like this:
and this
are just fine
But this:
and this
make him a perverted whore who only wants one thing.
It has come to a point now, in many relationships when this:
is okay but this:
he has to stash away and hide.
In a nutshell, men are eye-candy and women are heavenly vessels of beauty and life that should remain unsoiled by the male eyeballs or the male anatomy unless at the complete discretion of the woman. And, in all honesty, ladies, most of you have done it to yourselves.
Don't flounce around in public with your hair did and your nails did, lookin' all perty then get pissed when a man looks at you. Don't publish pictures on your Xanga of you in various states of "cuteness", flirting and melting the hearts of the attractive guys then get pissed when an ugly one wants to be your friend "just because I'm pretty". This isn't to say don't do it at all but don't do it and hold these impossible expectations of the opposite sex. If you don't want to be looked at like a piece of meat, don't look like a piece of meat. There will still be those people out there who treat you this way, there's no way around it, but why open yourself up to it then cry fowl when you feel you've been "violated".
You want to see if people will love you for you, and befriend you for you, speak the truth as best you know it, don't put pictures of yourself on the internet, don't walk around dressed like a hussy because you're "comfortable" in it when obviously you aren't comfortable with the way that people (actually
men, really, let's be honest) look at you unless he's the muscular 6'1" firefighter with the killer smile.
Don't put a consumer ideal on the opposite sex then expect to be hailed as a goddess by them at the same time. If there's a spider, kill it your damn self. Stub your toe, kiss your own damn toe. You think you're fat, exercise, 'cause people's flapping gums won't get you to the body you want. People are only adding you on social media sites because you're hot... take your pictures off, put up a picture of the Virgin Mary or St. Terese of Liseiux, then see what kind of men add you then. If you know that men only want one thing then why do you continue to bait them with it?
I'm sorry but I'm just so frustrated with some of you women who hold all these expectations over a man's head and don't hold the same ones for yourselves. Some of you seriously disrespect and violate yourselves more than anyone else around you does.
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If my pulse had something to do with this, you misunderstood me. I was saying that all men on my dad's side of the family are the same. (Selfish, inconsiderate pigs) Not all men in general.
Yeah! And all you women need to stop getting all hot n starin at my profile pic for hours! I'm not a piece of meat! (I'm a bag of bones!)
But in all seriousness, this post nails it!
I only felt violeted when my ex husband forced me to painful and humilliating sexual intercourse as a punishment for being late from his mom's house. otherwise i don't usually feel violated.
Women should look however they want and still be treated with respect. Same for men. Nothing wrong with expecting to be treated with respect.
^The comment above shimmer's... Has absolutely nothing to do with this post at all.
This is the message that you're getting from that comment: Don't criticize women because some of them get raped.
Nekkid Friday.
See, that way there would be some of the "ugly" guys getting a lot more play when chicks see their package, so moods will improve, and some of those "conceited" chicks would get a lot less when the dudes see their stretch marks, and realize she must have padded bras.
Nekkididity. The great equalizer.
Vote The Doug™ 2016!
I know her, and that's not even close to what shes saying, and the comment itself makes that clear.
As much as I agree with many of your points, this is what annoys me about you. Over-interpretation of everything, and in so doing, you become guilty of one of the very things you accuse (rightly) women of...
Being a victim at every turn.
The point being, look how you want, but dont act shocked if you stress sexy, abd then someone *gasp* looks at you like you're sexy.
@ShimmerBodyCream - The problem that she seems to be pointing out, is that they are complaining about the attention from undesirables and paint it as disrespect, when they wouldn't paint it as disrespect if it were coming from a desirable.
@Under_the_Ghillie - Maybe I didn't interpret it correctly.
@xXxlovelylollipop - I apologize if I was wrong.
i absolutely agree.
and just to point out...playboy isn't allowed in my house and neither is 50 shades of grey. all of it can stay out haha.
@Under_the_Ghillie - You're so very sweet.You're one of the persons I've missed while away from xanga. You my friend are a total gentleman
@AmorVomnia7 - Don't worry, I mind you as much as I always do :P
I completely agree with this post.
You wouldn't go to a job interview looking like a hobo. This is because everyone knows how you dress absolutely sends a message. It is so annoying when women send a clear message with how they dress, and then only want the guys that they think are hot to get that message.
it depends on the world view of the person i guess...
some do directly associate shamelessness with pride or self confidence, that this is an era that a man don't really need to exploit women to actually exploits them..
because women are doing that to themselves with pride..
(that's just my personal view as a caveman, of course)
@Under_the_Ghillie - Naked Friday ?
Thank goodness I don't have a webcam. *Grin* Φ ≡
Nice post. AND, excellent use of visual aids!
@Under_the_Ghillie - Nekkid Friday would frighten me...I live in the second fattest state in the union (sometimes we are fatter than Mississippi). I would not leave my house if there were nekkid people outside or I would learn to recognize people by their feet.
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I think women have always been this way. It's not just women today. I think that women in general need to learn the difference between undesired attention and sexual harassment/assault. The ones that get confused are mostly ones that have never experienced the latter. I have also never understood the mentality that some women have about male sexuality. In the past, I have known women who felt that it was perfectly ok for them to ogle other men, but if their boyfriend did it, he committed a deadly sin. I wish I could say it changes as women mature, but sadly it doesn't.
Thank you for proving my point about the Femmunists.
nice post! the fact that it wasn't a dude who wrote this makes it even more poignant. respect.
@Under_the_Ghillie - There is a difference between asking a woman out and reducing women to a piece of meat. A way a woman dresses should never make her a piece of meat or less of a person.
@AmorVomnia7 - Oh, well I agree that is silly. I just didn't agree with the statement that any human being should be reduced in value because of how they dress.
@SuicidalKittenNuggets - a guy looking at a girl at a bar is the least of most women's worries when we have to put up with drunk morons all night.
@UndyingNova - No no no, I'm sorry if it seemed to imply that. I guess the timing was kind of shitty on that one. Sorry. =/
This is exactly the truth. If only more people, in this case women, were so rational. Our society is full of so many double standards flying from one direction and the other, i'm amazed we all just don't get dizzy and fall down.
@xXxlovelylollipop - Damn!